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6 Easy Ways To Impress Girls on a First Date
Hey guys! (Literally – this article is for you men out there.) This post is for you. As a woman, I’ve gone on many first dates, and my girlfriends have too. We talk and share stories, and there are a few simple things you can do to impress a girl on a first date. Follow these 7 simple steps, and you’ll differentiate yourself from most men on a first date.
1. Show Up Early for a First Date
It makes a bad impression if you are late to a date. Most women hate being alone at bars, restaurants, coffee shops. It makes us uncomfortable. Unlike men, women don’t go to bars solo. (We are always in pairs!) So if we arrive before you to a first date, we get super uncomfortable.
So men: Please show up 5-10 minutes early. Plan for traffic. Plan for 10 minutes to park. Plan for a slow Uber driver. Do whatever you need to do.
If you hate waiting, bring a book to read, or talk to the person sitting next to you at the restaurant or bar. Whatever you do, don’t be late! It shows disrespect for the woman, and she won’t forget that you were the guy who showed up late.
2. Compliment Her
Even if it’s a casual coffee date, the woman likely spent at least 15 minutes getting ready. I’m quick to get ready for a first date (15 minutes), but I know some women who spend an hour getting ready. YES – you heard me right. Some women spend an hour (or more!) to get ready. Women shower, curl their hair, put on makeup, and plan date “outfits” with their girlfriends.
So compliment how she looks! A simple, “you look nice,” or “I love your dress” goes a long way.
I had a man compliment my purse one time, and I instantly felt more attracted to him. I remember thinking, “He noticed me purse! How sweet of him!” My purse was a recent addition to closet, and his compliment brightened my day.
3. Offer to Pay Before the Check Arrives
If you asked her on the date, you need to pay. Period. The person that asks for the date needs to pay. When a woman offers to pay for her portion of the date, she doesn’t actually mean it. A woman never wants to pay for a date, unless she wants to friend zone you – HARD. When we offer to pay, we are playing a game because we’ve been told that we should always offer to pay for our portion of the bill. But it also makes us uncomfortable, and we hate playing the game.
So when you are finishing up the date, ask the waiter for one check. The instant the check is placed on the table, grab it and put your credit card in it. This gesture also comes across as very manly and shows you are a true gentleman.
Want to really impress a woman on the first date?
Want to really impress a woman? Say that you want to treat her to the meal/drinks/date before the check even comes. During one date, I was absolutely delighted and relieved when the gentleman said, “If it’s okay with you – I’d love to treat you to this dinner.”
Before the check even arrived, he confirmed that he would not only be paying for my meal, but that it would be his pleasure to pay. It made me feel special and taken care of, which is what women like.
So don’t be cheap. Pay for the damn date.
Dating a Lot, and Feeling Pinched for Money?
I get it. Dating can be expensive. If you are fed up of spending $25+ on dates, change the date.
- Ask a girl out for coffee.
- Ask her out for ice-cream.
- Ask her if she wants to check out a free art gallery.
You don’t need to spend lots of money on a date to make a great first impression with a girl. The best first date I’ve ever been on was with my long-time boyfriend from college. And guess where he took me? I-Hop.
4. Dress Nicely on a First Date
Dress nice on a date. I don’t care if you are a sweatpants kind of guy. Put on nice jeans and a collared shirt for a first date. Women dress up for dates, and the woman will feel silly if she’s dressed up and you are dressed down.
You can’t go wrong with dressing up. I’ve had dinner dates where the man was in a suit, and I was wearing simple, black jeans and a cute tank top. And guess what – the man’s gesture to dress up impressed me. You can dress more casually on the second date, but put your best foot forward on a first date.
By dressing nice – you are showing that you are putting in an effort. No woman wants to date a lazy guy. So don’t be lazy. Dress up. Ask a female friend for advice on what to wear.
Tip: Make sure your jeans fit you really well.
I can’t stress enough how important it is that your jeans fit you well. Don’t show up in baggy or ill-fitting jeans. We women notice! Lots of women are into guys with a cute butt (yes – you heard me right), so make sure your jeans fit you right. They should not be baggy at the waist. They should also not be the super tight, emo looking jeans. (Unless you are emo or hipster, in which case – go ahead and wear your jeans!)
Check out this video with more tips on choosing the right pants and outfit for a first date.
5. Walk Her to Her Car
After the date, be a gentleman and offer to walk the woman to her car. It’s the polite, gentlemanly thing to do. It will also help you pass her first date test.
Are we capable of walking to the car ourselves? Yes, of course. But women want to feel taken care of in a relationship. Show her that you care about her safety by offering to walk her to her car, or by waiting for her until she gets in her Uber.
Worried that you might appear stalker-ish by walking her to her car? Just ask her! Say, “May I walk you to your car?” If she says, “no,” then don’t push it and let her walk to her car alone.
Tip: If you’ve met her in person, offer to pick her up for the date
I know many men who love driving, but guess what – my girlfriends and I hate driving. It’s not fun for us. And we don’t like paying for an Uber either. So if it’s not a blind date from a dating app, offer to pick her up. If she declines, don’t push it. It makes a great impression if you offer to pick a woman up for a first date. If you are on a second date with a girl, definitely offer to pick her up.
6. Plan the Second Date before the First Date Ends
Women hate the unknown. After the first date, we get stressed. We wonder if the man is going to ask us on a second date. We analyze each text, and we analyze the conversation and entire date with girlfriends. Sound ridiculous? Yes, it is. But we analyze everything, searching for any hint that there will be a second date.
For example, here are some of the conversations us women have with each other after a first date.
- He didn’t text me after our date last night. Should I text him today? Or should I wait 3-days? I don’t want to appear desperate.
- I think he likes me. Our date lasted longer than 3 hours and he said he wanted to see me again, but I haven’t heard from him yet. Does he like me?
- He mentioned doing a second date on Saturday, but he hasn’t confirmed what or when yet. Should I reach out to him? Should I wait until Saturday morning to confirm? I want to go to a festival with my friends Saturday afternoon, but I don’t want to bother him.
So guys – don’t leave us women wondering. If you like a woman, plan the second date during the first date. A great line is, “I’d love to see you again. Are you free on Tuesday?”
If you are traveling, have family in town, or have a busy week at work, we get it. The second date could be two weeks after the first date. Just let us know what you have going on, and plan the date.
Once a woman knows that there will be a second date, you don’t need to worry about texting her every day. This makes life easier for you!
Want to play hard to get?
Guys: You may have heard that women are attracted to men that play hard to get. Don’t believe this advice! High quality, confident women don’t have the patience to wait around for a guy who “might” like her.