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Second Date Advice for Guys: Mistakes to Avoid
Are you going on a second date with a girl? Don’t make one of these top 10 dating mistakes!
Follow these 10 dating tips and second date advice for guys for a successful second date.
Dating topics covered in this post by Dating Snippets:
- Second date kiss
- Second date expectations
- Second date tips
- How to act on a second date
- What not to do on a second date
Second Date Advice for Guys: The Top 10 Second Date Mistakes
Don't make one of these mistakes. These are the top 10 second date mistakes that men make, according to women.
1. Letting Too Much Time Pass between Date #1 and Date #2
Mistake #1 for a second date happens before the date even starts!
Girls lose interest in a guy if he lets too much time pass between dates. A girl’s interest in you is HIGHEST immediately after the first date.
If you let too much time go between the first date and the second date (meaning more than 7 days), the girl’s interest will fade.
Second Date Advice Key Takeaways
- Schedule the 2nd date 1-3 days after the first date.
- Make sure the second date happens within a week after the first date.
Why do Girls Lose Interest over Time?
If you let too much time pass between dates, a girl will think you aren’t into her.
Girls want to feel desired. Girls want guys to chase them.
If you play “hard to get” and don’t schedule a date within a week, she will lose interest in you.
2. Picking Her Up in a Dirty Car for a 2nd Date
Girls care what car you drive, but only to an extent.
What’s more important is how well you maintain your car. (Check out this Facebook Live video by Dating Snippets to learn more.)
If you are picking a girl up in your car, make sure it is clean and smells nice. A smelly, dirty car is a huge turn off to women.
3. Taking a Personal Call on a Second Date
It doesn’t matter how important you are. Women don’t care if you are a CEO and make $500K a year.
In no circumstances is it appropriate to take a personal call when a woman is in your car.
Put the phone away. Ensure it is on silent.
4. Repeating the Same Date (a Mistake!)
If you got drinks for the first date, don’t do drinks for a second date!
Get creative. A woman will think you are boring if you plan the same date twice.
Need second date ideas? Check out these date ideas.
5. Not Touching the Girl During the Date
Girls need to feel desired.
Depending on her love language, a woman may need physical touch to feel attraction toward you.
If you never find an excuse to touch a girl on her arm or her back, she may friend zone you.
Already in the friend zone?
Check out this article with tips on how to get out of the friend zone.
6. Looking Sloppy – Crappy Clothes and Unkempt Facial Hair
If you showered, shaved your beard, and wore nice pants and a collared shirt for a first date, you need to do the same for a second date.
Unless you are going hiking, you need to look put together.
Think about it.
Would you want a girl to show up in heals and a red dress on a first date, and show up in baggy gym shorts and a boring t-shirt on a 2nd date?
7. Walking Ahead of Her
When walking with a woman, walk BESIDE her – not in front of her.
Charging ahead and leaving a girl behind is rude. It sends the message of, “I am doing my own thing. Follow me.” This is a huge turn off.
Women want to be your partner and walk beside you, not behind you.
Dinner date rule: When walking to a table at a restaurant, let the woman go in front of you.
8. Stopping the Charm on the 2nd Date
If you pulled out the bells and whistles during the first date, you need to keep it up during the second date.
A woman wants to feel desired and sexy.
- Compliment her.
- Pull out the chair for her at a restaurant.
- Make her feel like a woman.
If you stop the charm, she will see you as a friend and lose romantic interest in you.
Want to really impress a woman with your charm?
Check out this YouTube video by dating snippets.
9. Not Paying for the Second Date (a Big Mistake!)
You need to pay for the second date.
In fact, you need to pay for the first, the second, and the third date if you want to keep a woman interested in you.
Is it fair? No.
Is it what you need to do to keep a woman interested? Yes.
Women don’t want to pay for a date.
If you want to save money, ask a girl out for a walk in the park, or suggest something that is inexpensive.
10. No Kiss or Extended Hug after the Date
Women don’t expect a kiss on a first date, but we do expect a sign that you are into us by the end of the second date.
If you don’t give a woman an extended hug or a kiss at the end of the second date, a woman will wonder if there is chemistry between the two of you.
If you don’t make a move, she will think you are a Beta male who has no clue how to take charge. Or worse, she’ll start to think that you suck in the bedroom too.
Don’t kiss a girl if she doesn’t seem interested!! That will be a big turn off.
Women are usually comfortable with hugs (we hug our guy friends), so make sure to at least give a girl a tight hug at the end of the second ate.
Want More Second Date Tips?
Want more dating advice for a successful second date?
Check out the section titled, “Second Date Tips” on the Dating Snippets YouTube page.
Books with Great Dating Advice
Want more relationship advice?
Check out Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps. This book offers great insight into how women think!
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is also a favorite. And it’s not just for married couples! This book has GREAT advice for relationships and communication.
Getting a little bit down about dating? This book will make you feel more optimistic about finding "the one" and offers great tips for women.
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